I’m going to preface this by saying I’m angry and I’m sure other people have said this more cogently than I will. I’ll even admit I don’t have all the details. But I’ve read @AdrianneCurry‘s tweetstream and what I read was appalling enough for me to chime in.
An Open Letter to the idiots saying Adrianne Curry “asked for it”.
If you’re not aware, Adrienne was assaulted at Celebration V by a guy who thought it was just dandy to stick his hand up her skirt and grope her while she was at the con and cosplaying as Slave Leia.
That, on its own, is enough to piss me off.
But the topper here is that there are people telling Ms. Curry that she “asked for it” because of the way she was dressed.
Let me break this down for anyone who, for a moment, agrees with that sentiment.
1) In what world is it ever okay to touch a woman, especially in an intimate way, without express permission?
2) We’re talking about a woman who was dressed in a Slave Leia costume at a Star Wars convention. Forget the fact that the “you were asking for it” sentiment is bullshit on its face, we’re talking about a woman wearing a costume from the fandom being represented at the convention.
3) The guy was arrested, as he should have been, because it was ASSAULT. Your opinions on the validity of that arrest aren’t the point — the fact is the cops (and Adrianne) saw it as assault and that’s what matters here.
We’re talking about a geek gal, dressed for a Star Wars con, who got groped and was both physically and mentally wounded. Before you open your mouth to offer anything but condolences, ask yourself what you’d be thinking if she was your sister, or your girlfriend, or your mom.
Because women of all ages go to cons and cosplay — normally feeling pretty safe in the belief that they’re surrounded by people who understand and respect them.
So, if you’re reading this and you were one of the people who thought Adrianne “asked for it”, do me a favor? Apologize to the lady.