sex – Geek Girl Diva

Sometimes I post things that are hard to watch. This is one of them.

Geek Girl Diva — Fri, 30 Aug 2013 18:22:00 +0000

This dropped my jaw.

It made me think.

I’m sharing because it’s hard to watch.

Watch anyway.

(Fair warning, it’s likely a trigger for some people. I also think it’s a powerful statement)

via Upworthy

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Sex strikes, women’s right & the single geek girl

Geek Girl Diva — Fri, 28 Jun 2013 00:02:00 +0000

You may have noticed recently that I’ve been pretty verbal about what’s been happening in Texas in regard to women’s health*.

I was part of the 180k people watching the Texas Tribune livestream. I watched Wendy Davis show her super hero status. I watched “the people” make their voice heard. I saw the Texas GOP try to lie and say SB5 pass. I beamed the next morning when I saw that, while the GOP tried to cheat, they failed and SB5 was deemed not passed.

I then saw Rick Perry turn around and announce another special session starting July 1st and put the damn abortion bill back into action because he’s damn sure that he knows more about the will of the women of Texas than they do. Perry & the Texas GOP are pushing legislation that 80% of Texas disagree with, but they’re patting people on the head and saying “hush up now, we’re doing what’s best for you.”

Hulk smash, right?

So the question is, what now? If we’re going to see this sort of thing happening in Texas again, and Texas isn’t the only place, then how can I help those women? I want to help. But I feel like this is one of those things where online avatars just won’t be enough.

A friend sent me a link to a new FB page called “Don’t Fuck With Texas” because he thought I’d want to support it, given my take on this.

Which got me thinking on this entire topic on what I could do. What little ole me could do or support or create or lend my voice to, to make a difference.

A sex strike doesn’t sound like a good idea. If for no other reason than, in addition to disliking the practice of sex as a weapon or withholding as punishment, women enjoy sex too! Why do we need to give up what we enjoy to prove that our bodies belong to us?

So then I thought, “Well, what about pink shoes? We could all wear pink shoes like Wendy.”. Except pink shoes are subtle and, while it’s a nice gesture, the men who are pushing this radical agenda ignore much more “in your face” tactics than pink shoes.

Then I thought, “A sick out. Cops get Blue Flu. What if all the women of Texas just took a sick day? Show how integral they are to the every day life if the Texan economy?”, but on the heels of that was a worry that women might feel their jobs were at risk and maybe some of them might get fired.

At this point, the best I have is a sit in in which people literally surround the Texas State House so that legislators can’t get in to do anything, much less, pass an abortion bill.

But here’s what I feel. If we do anything, whatever we do — we need to help the women of Texas speak out. They are the voice that needs to roar loudest. They’re the ones we need to empower.

So it needs to be something they want to participate in. Not something we do to them, but something they do for themselves.

Cause I’m pretty sure they’re sick and tired of people telling them what to do.

/end ponderant

*If you’re not aware I was mouthy recently, yep I was! Shocker, I know. If you don’t know what I mean about Texas, Google so you can be up to speed on this conversation!

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A sudden and unexpected rant on sex shaming, the internet and idiocy gone wild.

Geek Girl Diva — Thu, 14 Mar 2013 22:20:00 +0000

Can we have a short talk about how good the Internet is at allowing people to make grandiose and idiotic statements of morality and supposed “intellectual” superiority with as little information as possible?

And if it’s about anything relaxing to sex or gender, oh look out.

Single man shares sexual tweets with a stripper, she tries to blackmail him, he doesn’t pay (because he did nothing illegal). She goes to his boss and they fire him for indecency?

Geek Girl icon (no not me ::grin::) says she’s taking a Women’s Studies class and an entire debate on feminism being another type of misandry ensues.

Steubenville rape trial gets brought up in my WoW trade chat last night, and when I try and just shut that shit down before it even starts, I’m accused of being overly sensitive and unable to have a rational discussion. Cause, y’know, asking a question in trade chat is always the best place to get a rational discussion.

But it all comes down to the same thing. If it’s about sex, and it’s online, everyone has an opinion and they’re damn well going to share it and you’re an idiot if you don’t agree. And, while they’re at it, they’ll say shit that they would NEVER say to your face because they know it’s inappropriate.

And the thing that makes me crazy is that, no matter how zen you are. No matter how empowered. There’s a part of you that feels the shaming. Because you’re human. And then you want to defend and then, the next thing you know, you’re engaging with these trolls and all you want to do is kick someone’s head in.

::deep breath::

Somewhere, people seem to have lost sight of a few things. Sexuality is human. What is done between consenting adults, no matter how deviant or depraved in your eyes (as long as it’s consenting adults only) is none of your business. And who are you to shame anyone?

As I tweeted: It’s interesting to see how prevalent sex shaming is. Heaven forbid you should be a sexual creature & express yourself at all.

Oh and, can we please stop throwing the terms misandry and misogyny around like it’s existential conversation night at the coffee house? You don’t get extra points for using terms that don’t actually apply to a situation — because you’re using them incorrectly.

Feminism is not a misandric movement. Being masculine is not inherently misogynistic.

They’re also not shaming or threatening in nature.

But coming into a thread on FB or tossing loaded comments on a website using those words and comments like “well, you’re asking for it”?

That definitely is.

How about you get your own houses in order and get that glass all nice and shiny before you go throwing stones.

I’ll bet you have a few porn stashes and old high school notes in your closet that you wouldn’t want people peeking at.

While you’re at it, if sex offends you just by it’s existence. Maybe the sex isn’t the problem.

Just sayin’.

/end rant

p.s. This one comment on this Mattel story about mommy bloggers and Mattel trying to teach them “how to play Hot Wheels” made me laugh. I admit. “Maybe the moms could just stand by and ask for directions at the little Mattel gas station that their sons refuse to pull into whenever their Hot Wheel cars go off course and get lost.”

I never said I was perfect.

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