Comments on: An Open Letter to the idiots saying Adrianne Curry “asked for it”. http://www.geekgirldiva.com/an-open-letter-to-the-idiots-saying-adrianne-curry-asked-for-it/ Fri, 30 Jan 2015 03:14:36 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.0.3 By: Michael http://www.geekgirldiva.com/an-open-letter-to-the-idiots-saying-adrianne-curry-asked-for-it/#comment-3440 Sat, 23 Oct 2010 13:50:01 +0000 http://www.geekgirldiva.com/2010/08/an-open-letter-to-the-idiots-saying-adrianne-curry-asked-for-it.html#comment-3440 The incident reported is wrong and has no place in civil society.

Additionally, the gender of the person attacked is irrelevant. It is wrong to grope anyone of any gender without permission. Before anyone claims that this sort of thing does not happen to men, pay attention to what happens to men wearing traditional kilts. There is a widespread habit (especially in the UK) for women and men to “check” whether the kilt has the appropriate missing undergarments.

Groping and other unwelcome intimate contact is wrong and should be punished in all cases irrespective of the gender of those affected.

]]> By: Eve Utyro http://www.geekgirldiva.com/an-open-letter-to-the-idiots-saying-adrianne-curry-asked-for-it/#comment-3295 Wed, 25 Aug 2010 22:20:48 +0000 http://www.geekgirldiva.com/2010/08/an-open-letter-to-the-idiots-saying-adrianne-curry-asked-for-it.html#comment-3295 I hadn’t heard of this before and I’m not a huge fan of hers, but agree completely with what you’ve said. The whole mindset of “dressed like that, you’re asking for it” is sickening and outdated. Assault is assault. End of story.

Thanks for your thoughts- my inner feminist roars with you ;)

]]> By: TDF Pamela http://www.geekgirldiva.com/an-open-letter-to-the-idiots-saying-adrianne-curry-asked-for-it/#comment-3294 Wed, 25 Aug 2010 22:03:37 +0000 http://www.geekgirldiva.com/2010/08/an-open-letter-to-the-idiots-saying-adrianne-curry-asked-for-it.html#comment-3294 I’m way late on this, thanks to traveling and all that crap, but WHAT. Seriously?

You know, people hate feminists for going on about patriarchal society and how it’s based around making women second class citizens. But you know what? ANYONE who says a woman “deserves” being assaulted, raped, or abused is a symptom of that society and is full of shit. No one, male or female, deserves abuse, and I’d like to see the assholes saying this actually tell someone that in real life, without the nice anonymity of the internet to hide behind.

Jesus, this is revolting.

]]> By: Jinxy http://www.geekgirldiva.com/an-open-letter-to-the-idiots-saying-adrianne-curry-asked-for-it/#comment-3281 Wed, 18 Aug 2010 02:50:45 +0000 http://www.geekgirldiva.com/2010/08/an-open-letter-to-the-idiots-saying-adrianne-curry-asked-for-it.html#comment-3281 I am just shocked that someone in this day and age is using “she was asking for it”.

I really hope that not only the jerk that assulted her but all the brain-dead losers who commented negatively get exactly what they deserve.

]]> By: C http://www.geekgirldiva.com/an-open-letter-to-the-idiots-saying-adrianne-curry-asked-for-it/#comment-3275 Tue, 17 Aug 2010 14:49:48 +0000 http://www.geekgirldiva.com/2010/08/an-open-letter-to-the-idiots-saying-adrianne-curry-asked-for-it.html#comment-3275 I think what Anonymous is saying is more that …. unfortunately, it’s the society we live in. A woman should be able to trust that the men around her aren’t going to grope her. But that’s not the world we live in. I’m not saying men are rape machines, just that some of them, like the man who committed assault, are dangerous. Women do have to protect themselves. They SHOULDN’T have to, but they do. It’s the same reason I don’t walk home alone at night. BUT, if I got raped, I know it’s not my fault, because in a better world, there wouldn’t be men lurking in the streets looking for someone to assault. I have a right to walk wherever I want, whenever I want.

It’s a complicated issue and unfortunately the above poster is right: we focus too much on what women can/should do to protect themselves and not enough on telling would-be assaulters that rape is wrong. It really does make it all too easy for victims to blame themselves when something happens. People should be able to live their lives without fear of being raped.

]]> By: Why are there people like this still!?!!? http://www.geekgirldiva.com/an-open-letter-to-the-idiots-saying-adrianne-curry-asked-for-it/#comment-3274 Tue, 17 Aug 2010 14:33:02 +0000 http://www.geekgirldiva.com/2010/08/an-open-letter-to-the-idiots-saying-adrianne-curry-asked-for-it.html#comment-3274 I don’t know what infuriates me more… that this still happens, or people like Anonymous who defend the people who do it.

“However, women who cosplay like Mrs. Curry does in the outfits like she wears needs to realize that there are people out there that aren’t going to respect the boundaries of polite society and protect themselves accordingly.”

People like the assaulter and Anonymous should be arrested on site with harsher punishments. Can i make a suggestion to you
Anonymous?

People like you should wear a shirt saying that you believe victims of assault deserve what they get. Then anyone can come up to you and wail on you without needing to fear getting in trouble with the law.

]]> By: Valkyrie607 http://www.geekgirldiva.com/an-open-letter-to-the-idiots-saying-adrianne-curry-asked-for-it/#comment-3271 Tue, 17 Aug 2010 01:21:16 +0000 http://www.geekgirldiva.com/2010/08/an-open-letter-to-the-idiots-saying-adrianne-curry-asked-for-it.html#comment-3271 Anonymous, you’re just part of the problem. Walking around in a bikini is NOT AT ALL equivalent to driving a car without wearing a seat belt. Unless of course you subscribe to the idea that men are just rape machines with no self-control, who are just waiting to assault someone. If you do believe this, well, I think you’re a bigot towards men as well as women, and, like I said, people like you are part of the problem.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.geekgirldiva.com/an-open-letter-to-the-idiots-saying-adrianne-curry-asked-for-it/#comment-3270 Tue, 17 Aug 2010 00:19:40 +0000 http://www.geekgirldiva.com/2010/08/an-open-letter-to-the-idiots-saying-adrianne-curry-asked-for-it.html#comment-3270 “Because women of all ages go to cons and cosplay — normally feeling pretty safe in the belief that they’re surrounded by people who understand and respect them.”

That’s like driving a car without wearing a seatbelt believing that everyone else is going to be responsible and careful drivers so you’ll be okay.

Now I don’t believe women “deserve it” when something like this happens, I believe quite the opposite.

However, women who cosplay like Mrs. Curry does in the outfits like she wears needs to realize that there are people out there that aren’t going to respect the boundaries of polite society and protect themselves accordingly.

I understand she had 2 guys with her and IMO they should have been on the lookout for guys like A-hole grabby hands and stopped him before he laid a finger on her.

]]> By: Scott Mendelson http://www.geekgirldiva.com/an-open-letter-to-the-idiots-saying-adrianne-curry-asked-for-it/#comment-3269 Mon, 16 Aug 2010 23:29:11 +0000 http://www.geekgirldiva.com/2010/08/an-open-letter-to-the-idiots-saying-adrianne-curry-asked-for-it.html#comment-3269 The Scottish have the right idea. Enjoy this humorous anti-rape PSA:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h95-IL3C-Z8&feature=player_embedded

]]> By: Ryan the Lion roar... http://www.geekgirldiva.com/an-open-letter-to-the-idiots-saying-adrianne-curry-asked-for-it/#comment-3266 Mon, 16 Aug 2010 22:44:08 +0000 http://www.geekgirldiva.com/2010/08/an-open-letter-to-the-idiots-saying-adrianne-curry-asked-for-it.html#comment-3266 First I’ve heard of the incident, and my first thought was immediately “What if this happened to my girlfriend?” who, like myself, is a performer. Unfortunately our culture also views the woman as weak, especially in the entertainment industry, if a man steps in for her, so I have to chain myself when sleazebags sexually harass her and let her deal with it herself, which thankfully, her intellect makes her more than capable of doing. If someone assaulted her as that scumbag did to Ms. Curry, there would be no way I could control myself. The “deserved it,” line really only works if the person did something to actually deserve it… as in if this guy gets raped in prison. He deserves it.

]]> By: Kristen http://www.geekgirldiva.com/an-open-letter-to-the-idiots-saying-adrianne-curry-asked-for-it/#comment-3244 Mon, 16 Aug 2010 20:47:14 +0000 http://www.geekgirldiva.com/2010/08/an-open-letter-to-the-idiots-saying-adrianne-curry-asked-for-it.html#comment-3244 I am trying to keep this calm and clear, rather than rage off, which is my natural instinct.

That this happened, is obscene. That people’s response is, that Ms. Curry was, “Asking for it,” is obscene. It is also what happens every day. We live in a culture where women are told what, *THEY* are supposed to do, in order to not be raped/assaulted, rather than people being taught not to rape/assault other people.
In other cultures, women are routinely jailed, whipped, and murdered, because they’ve been raped/assaulted.
I am glad that people have stood up and said, “This is wrong,” in response to this situation. However, if you want to change the culture that gives tacit approval and encouragement to the behavior this man exhibited, there’s a lot more work to be done. It’s worth doing. Because as so many comments have pointed out – it could be your mother, sister, daughter, friend, lover, spouse. It could be anyone’s family, or any one of us.
I’m speaking from experience. Maybe we geeks need to rally here, and take an opportunity to say that This is not acceptable under any circumstances. Ever.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.geekgirldiva.com/an-open-letter-to-the-idiots-saying-adrianne-curry-asked-for-it/#comment-3241 Mon, 16 Aug 2010 19:38:59 +0000 http://www.geekgirldiva.com/2010/08/an-open-letter-to-the-idiots-saying-adrianne-curry-asked-for-it.html#comment-3241 Thanks for bringing attention to this. Attitudes like the assaulter’s and those supporting him by saying she asked for it have no place in civilized society.

]]> By: michael http://www.geekgirldiva.com/an-open-letter-to-the-idiots-saying-adrianne-curry-asked-for-it/#comment-3240 Mon, 16 Aug 2010 19:28:34 +0000 http://www.geekgirldiva.com/2010/08/an-open-letter-to-the-idiots-saying-adrianne-curry-asked-for-it.html#comment-3240 This is the first I’ve heard of it. The validity of the arrest can be contested but that’s not the point here. If you think she deserved what she got, replace the name Adrienne Curry with your mother,sister,girlfriend or even yourself. Guys joke about wanting to be molested but can you honestly say you’d welcome it if this was you?

Here’s another thought. Say you’re wearing that Alex Ross shirt that has Bush as a vampire sucking blood out of the Statue of Liberty. Do you deserve some guy to come up and slug you? Of course not. You’re expressing yourself. Same as Ms. Curry.

Frankly down here in Texas we have ways of dealing with people like this “man” who assaulted her and he needs to feel lucky there wasn’t that kind of thinking going on at Celebration.

Interesting sidenote. the captcha for this post is the word “chasten”. weird.

]]> By: William http://www.geekgirldiva.com/an-open-letter-to-the-idiots-saying-adrianne-curry-asked-for-it/#comment-3239 Mon, 16 Aug 2010 18:42:38 +0000 http://www.geekgirldiva.com/2010/08/an-open-letter-to-the-idiots-saying-adrianne-curry-asked-for-it.html#comment-3239 I (as maybe other people) didn’t know about this incident before DH posted a (re-)tweet. What I do know of pictures on Twitter (DH) that there were more women in Slave Leia costumes. There was also a Sith Ball with less clothing. Does that give you the right to misbehave. The simple and straightforward answer is, NO. You wouldn’t on the beach or somewhere else. Freaks like these are of all times and need a check-up or be locked up.
As I am from The Netherlands and we are here maybe (I say maybe) a little more (sexually) open than the USA, or you could say it’s a bit more excepted. BUT, also here people are assaulted / raped. It’s I think got more to do with misbehaving people who can’t control themselves than it has something to do with how open a society is about these kind of subjects. In one way or another, it’s never an excuse to do something like this. And that as was said, on such a place where you think you would be more save than normal.

]]> By: AlmaPapo http://www.geekgirldiva.com/an-open-letter-to-the-idiots-saying-adrianne-curry-asked-for-it/#comment-3238 Mon, 16 Aug 2010 18:20:45 +0000 http://www.geekgirldiva.com/2010/08/an-open-letter-to-the-idiots-saying-adrianne-curry-asked-for-it.html#comment-3238 Ditto! Respect is not an option in a civilized society; and, gentlemanshi has not vanished.
AlmaPapo

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